Published on September 29th, 2015 // INTENTIONAL LIVING JOY LIFE MOTIVATIONAL

Today, I am not talking about branding or business. Today, I am sharing about something personal. The state of our hearts and the pursuit of joy. To be a good business owner, spouse, parent, or anything really, you need to be a good YOU. At the end of the day, clients are gone, social media followers are gone, competition is gone, and you are left with yourself and your heart. It is our own responsibility to cater to the state of our heart.


It feels like it’s been a hard week already, although it’s only Tuesday. It might be because last week never truly ended for me, and seemed to have merged into this one. Or, it might be because my heart is struggling and everything feels hard right now. Reverie Lane Designs is more successful and busier than ever before, my kids have been sick and/or teething, I threw a birthday party for my son on Sunday, but mostly what’s making me struggle is that I felt hurt and rebuked on a personal aspect of life by people around me. Separately, I can deal with each one of these things, but put together I felt defeated and allowed the offense to make a big bruise on my heart and threaten my joy.

Now, I am the mellow artist type, and wild joyful expressions don’t happen naturally for me anyways. Because of that I have almost come to convince myself that not everybody should be joyful all the time – ugly excuses, right? This year, in my personal relationship with God, I have been brought to realize and acknowledge that joy is a command, it is not an option. It is so necessary to fully and intentionally live your life, to pursue joy, and I know I need to accept that truth. Even if you are not a believer, cultivating a joyful heart should be a priority of yours. I am all about living intentionally, as you may be starting to understand, and pursuing joy is one of the best ways to do so, I believe.

I love this John Piper quote and it couldn’t illustrate my point any better:

“The pursuit of joy in God is not optional. It is not an “extra” that a person might grow into after he comes to faith. It is not simply a way to “enhance” your walk with the Lord. Until your heart has hit upon this pursuit, your “faith” cannot please God. It is not saving faith. Saving faith is the confidence that if you sell all you have and forsake all sinful pleasures, the hidden treasure of holy joy will satisfy your deepest desires. Saving faith is the heartfelt conviction not only that Christ is reliable, but also that He is desirable. It is the confidence that He will come through with His promises and that what He promises is more to be desired than all the world.”
– John Piper, Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist

Pursuing joy is absolutely a challenge at times for me. Oddly enough I find comfort in being melancholic sometimes, as it doesn’t build expectations that can then bring disappointments. I also allow myself to ‘care too much’ about others’ opinions. In light of that reality, I choose to believe that Christ is my joy and that He will come through for me. I choose to make joy a priority instead of an option.


My friend, keep pursuing joy. Don’t give up on the idea of joy for you. Cater to the state of your heart, pursue joy! Even, or should I say especially, if like me you are the ‘lock me in the attic with paint supply and I’ll be fine’ artist type.


  • Erika

    I so agree!!! You have to choose joy. There are too many things trying to keep you from it. Love this!

    September 30, 2015 at 11:36 am

  • So true…It has to be intentional. There are many distractions keeping our hearts from pursuing joy.

    September 30, 2015 at 11:47 am

  • Katey

    I struggle with this too! I’m not necessarily a sad person but I’m not the outgoing “happy” kind of person either. I think sometimes I have to tell myself that joy may look different manifested through me than someone else.

    September 30, 2015 at 11:42 am

  • Exactly, Katey! I’m not a sad person either but definitely not the hyper I love rainbow and unicorns type and joy DOES look different on/in me.

    September 30, 2015 at 11:48 am

  • Shiang-ling

    I feel like my past few months have merged together. I chose to stay busy because my husband deployed, but I am kinda sad because all of my friends never ask me how I am doing unless they see me. No one has reached out just to say hi and see how their friend is.

    September 30, 2015 at 11:45 am

  • Shiang-ling,

    I couldn’t begin to imagine how hard it must be to have your husband away from you. I am sorry to hear that you feel lonely and sad. When I first moved to the U.S., away from my family back in France I went through a period of such intense sadness because nobody seemed to care enough to check on me or even just say ‘Hi’ like you said. That’s where choosing joy comes in. It has to come from within and it’s definitely a daily discipline.

    Please feel free to send me a private message, I would love to check on you.

    September 30, 2015 at 11:55 am

  • Nevica Vazquez

    Oh I so needed to read this Katell. Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us. And I am right there with you on a journey to pursuing joy!

    September 30, 2015 at 12:46 pm

  • Nevica, how did I miss this? I love you, lady and thats for reading!

    October 7, 2015 at 9:08 am

  • Jessie @ Midwest Bride

    So so good and much needed for me. Sometimes we just need to stop and be happy with where we are. xo

    September 30, 2015 at 3:48 pm

  • Yes, I love that. Stop and be happy!

    October 7, 2015 at 9:08 am

  • Oksana |

    The whirlwind of emotions within me as I read your post ranged from hope to empathy to sadness and everything in between. I want to reach out and just give you the biggest hug – and I’m not even the hugging type! Thank you for being so transparent and vulnerable and beautiful, I look forward to hopefully connecting more and following your personal and professional journey! So very happy the Rising Tide Society has brought me here!

    About what you wrote, I too have been thinking and thinking and inevitably overthinking the pursuit of joy, and have come to the conclusion that for me it has to be less of a pursuit and more of a calmness and contentment. Feels like there are far too many things in life which we are to pursue, and for once I just want to learn to be, simply be – what, where and how I am at this precise moment. Sorry if I’m rambling; obviously this struck a chord within, and oh, how I would love it if we could simply meet over a cup of coffee to talk more!

    October 1, 2015 at 12:16 pm

  • Thanks for the virtual hug!
    I agree that the pursuit of joy is a state, a state of the heart. And ‘BEING’ in being joyful is equally important.

    October 7, 2015 at 9:07 am

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